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I answered, “I did. And Rabbit is a cat.”
This led to a tradition at our house of always referring to our sweet, loving, impossibly cute and serene male lilac point Siamese cat as The Rabbit. That’s when we weren’t calling him The Boy, My Boy, Rabbit Boo, Sweetie Boo, Boo Boy, Rabbito, Conejo Feliz, Pretty Boy, Happy Boy, Purring Boy, Darling Boy, Flopping Boy, Sun Kitty, Cream-Colored Kitty, Lord of the Thighs (his favorite place to sit) or Kitty in the Window (his other favorite place to sit). Yes, when we weren’t embarrassing him with all these names, he was The Rabbit. (His sister Noddy has a long list of pet names, too. Collectively, they were known as the Boosome Twosome.)
Rabbit really was an exceptional cat. He singlehandedly turned my husband into a cat person. When Ken and I began to date back in ’99, Ken wasn’t sure if he’d like dealing with my cats. He’d never owned a cat or a dog himself, and was allergic to pet dander. Rabbit settled all that in just a few seconds. He jumped into Ken’s lap, rubbed his head against Ken’s hand, gave a purr, and that was it. Ken loved both the cats from that moment. He got so used to their dander that they could sleep on him all night without causing a sneeze.
Rabbit just had a sweet and loving way about him that won people over. He was very patient and calm, and didn’t meow much. He just walked up to you, decided you were probably a nice person, jumped into your lap and purred contentedly. He did this with everyone, and everyone loved him instantly. He showed no fear and was never rejected. It helped that he had big blue eyes and the softest fur you can imagine. But it was his attitude that “you and I are friends” that really won hearts and minds.
We used to complain that his sister Noddy, who is his actual blood sister from the same litter of kittens, really needed to take charm lessons from Rabbit. He always knew how to snuggle comfortably on you or next to you, while she would do something less fun like stand heavily on your chest (or worse, your throat) and meow directly in your face. We used to say that Noddy is 8 pounds of lead, while Rabbit is 9 pounds of feathers. (This led to Noddy’s nickname of Lead Kitty.)
Even when Rabbit started getting sick from kidney disease, he found new ways to charm us. He was barfing a lot at that time, and got quite thin and frail. He couldn’t jump up on the kitchen counter anymore, and sleeping in his usual spot behind my knees became impossible because if I turned he couldn’t move fast enough to avoid getting smushed. So he started sleeping on our pillows, usually curled up in my hair. You’d think this would be annoying, but it wasn’t. We called this position Cat Hat.
Rabbit’s illness lasted about 2 years, during which I had to administer fluids to him subcutaneously. This involved sitting him in my lap, calming him down though he knew what was coming, inserting a needle from a hanging IV bag into a fold of skin between his shoulders, and keeping him from running away for 10-15 minutes until he’d gotten all 100 mL of the fluids inside him. He put up with it all with grace and only a few meowed complaints. Towards the end, for about 3 months, I had to do this twice a day. In addition, he needed 3-5 medications each mealtime – sometimes pills cut into quarters, sometimes liquids – all of which required forcing his mouth open. I hated doing it, but otherwise he’d die.
Of course, he died anyway. I like to think, though, that he went how he would have wanted to. He was at home, lying on the couch in our bedroom in the sun. We were away in Kansas City, and our wonderful friend and able catsitter Josh found him there, passed away, with Noddy standing guard over him.
It’s been about a month, and I still can’t wash the cream-colored kitty hair off the couch cover, or even move the curtains near the couch in any way. I keep picturing him there curled up, or looking out the window for us. Kitty in the Window.
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joonspoon
July 12th, 2010 at 4:05 pm
i get it now :’(
nice knowin ya the duration of this blog post, rabbit.
Peggy Gartin
July 12th, 2010 at 4:24 pm
Thanks, June. :-)
Lance Carter
July 12th, 2010 at 5:04 pm
What’s this water in my eyes? Stupid emotions…
Peggy Gartin
July 13th, 2010 at 3:29 pm
Oh, Lance. [grin]
Ali @PickleSugarPlum
July 16th, 2010 at 8:46 pm
Wow, what a beautiful post full of love…*wiping eyes*
I have gone through this heartbreak so many times, each time I say never again, but I fall for another, and they just have a way of wrapping you around their little paws, don’t they?
My hubby tried to be tough, in the beginning, when we got our girls, and he turned into a total softy with my older girl, whom we lost last year. His relationship with her was a loving one, she just brought out the best in us all…I still catch myself looking for her in her fave spots, when I walk past. I don’t know if I’ll ever stop…it’s become such a habit.
We still have our younger one, but, like your girl, this one is in need of charm training…she gets more mellow and a little less crazy each year…when she’s not being chased and tormented by two toddlers! The 2 kitties used to balance each other out…I still miss the balance.
HUGS to you.
Julie
July 17th, 2010 at 8:37 am
So sorry for your loss… We sent our 15-year-old diabetic cat (named Mouse!) over the rainbow bridge a couple of years ago and we still miss her.
Peggy Gartin
July 19th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
@Ali & @Julie- They do teach us a lot about love, don’t they? And also about being kind. Thanks to you both for your kindness.
nomatophobic
June 17th, 2011 at 7:59 am
Hopefully, as time goes on, you just hold on to the ways they loved you, and not the pain of losing them. Rabbit isn’t the only one in the story who showed the capacity for love – but you guys too.
It must have been so hard to have to watch your little, furry loved one lose strength, but you did what you had to to have more time. Hope you get through the day alright.
Peggy Gartin
June 17th, 2011 at 8:55 am
Thank you, Sarah. No mascara today, that’s for sure. I welled up just reading your comment.
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